When Zimbabwe’s economy began to slowly shut down, and unemployment began to shoot up, women took to the streets to vend. When men are out at war, the sustainability of a country is on the shoulders of women. Many African families have a situation whereby the man is a drunkard, a cheat, irresponsible, and women take up a leading role. Even in Jesus’ time of humiliation and shame, there were more women than men at the foot of the cross.
As we can see, when things get tough or things aren’t going right people turn to women, usually to mothers, hence we have saying like “mayibabo” in Ndebele and “amaiwe” in Shona. These words are uttered for two reasons in one word, firstly to acknowledge that there is a situation at hand, and things are not looking good. Secondly, it is to call the mother to try and fix it.
So where are our women? We are now preoccupied with make up and weaves, not saying that they are bad, but we need to be focusing on the necessities. We were created to solve problems across the scale, to incubate and to make things bigger and better. Especially in this economy of ours in Zimbabwe, not only are we readily equipped emotionally to give hope to our children and fellow countrymen, but with the education and skills we have acquired, we can couple that to empower the whole nation. We as women need to start thinking big, by doing the small things. Let us not take for granted the small things, taking care of the family, teaching the children, cooking, cleaning, giving affection and kindness to those who need it etc, because without these things, our people cannot function, emotionally and physically. When the men fail to lead and to do their jobs, women have to rise! We see this with single mothers.
Though we may be soft on the outside, we are made of steel on the inside, but many of us would want that steel to go away, or to abuse for a cause that will not aid them. More women are willing to stay in abusive relationships compared to men, because that is where we bring out our steel. Women protect their children, again, bringing out our steel. The steel of a woman is the foundation of the steering of society, but we have been unscrupulous to give it away, or to use it at the wrong time. Ask yourself, is it worth it? With what I am giving in, how much am I getting out? Am i treated like I am important? What are my roles and responsibilities?
Dear friend, there is a hidden strength and ability you held from the time you were born, even to influence nations, and it is not in the weave and make up you put on, but it is the steel put inside you. Like all metal, it must be worked on, shaped, cleaned to be the best grade to use for construction!
* This is a guest post by Natasha Karimakwenda*